The 3 Phases to Making a Change

So you want to make a change and become the best version of yourself? If you answered yes to this question, do you know where to start? Many times we want to accomplish different things, but have no clue on how to do it. I believe that in order to get to where we want to be in life, we have to go through three phases just like a butterfly. The process isn’t easy, however if you are determined to make a change and accomplish any goal, here are the three phases you must go through.

Caterpillar Phase:

This is the first phase we must go through when we want to make a change. During this phase, we are determined to become successful. We have a vague idea of exactly what we want, however we know we want success. We see others making moves and accomplishing goals, but we have no idea how to do that for ourselves. We scroll through life not knowing our destination. We don’t fully know our purpose or our existence. We sometimes even look to others for answers in hopes that they can rescue us. However, in reality no one can save us, except ourselves. Once we realize this and make a decision to change, we begin entering the cocoon phase.

Cocoon Phase:

This is the most important phase we must go through in life.  In this phase, we must spend time alone. This is what I call “solitary confinement”. At this point, we have to begin making sacrifices. Sacrificing people and things that are important to us. This may include: friends, social media, television shows, going out, etc. During this time, it is important to block out the noise and figure out who you are, your dreams, and your purpose. This is the time that you determine your values. Don’t be afraid to have conversations with yourself. You may even want to use a notebook to jot down any thoughts that you are having. Visualization is also an important aspect in this phase. When you visualize the life that you want, it will help you manifest it. Strengthening your spirituality and faith is essential. When you put your trust in an energy bigger than yourself such as the universe, it will help guide you to the right path.

Butterfly Phase:

Spread your wings and FLY! Once you arrive to this phase, it’s time to put all the pieces together. At this point you have already figured yourself out. You now know your purpose, goals, and values. You are now happy with who you are and what you stand for. You are now ready to go after everything you desire. You no longer let anything or anyone hold you back. You have strong faith and willpower. Your faith now puts all your fears to rest. You are now unstoppable and you can begin sharing your journey with others. This is when you will find the beauty in life every single day.


This is not an overnight process. This is a process that may take years to completely go through. This process requires a lot of patience, commitment, and perseverance. During this process you may get sidetracked, but don’t be afraid to dust yourself off and try again. I believe in you and I know you can do it!


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