“Happiness cannot be traveled to, owned, earned, worn or consumed. Happiness is the spiritual experience of living every minute with love, grace, and gratitude.”- Denis Waitley
Take a minute and think about what the term happiness mean. Now that you’ve defined it in your own words, think about the factors that make a person truly happy. Over the years, I’ve learned that happiness is key to a healthy and fulfilling life. Happiness is not something that can be given to you. Instead, happiness is something that you choose based on your perception of life.
Last year, I began to truly focus on my happiness. I constantly told myself that nothing else matters to me except my happiness. During this time, I began doing things that I felt will bring me joy. One of the biggest things I did was step outside of my comfort zone.
I started investing in my appearance. I changed the type of haircut that I’d normally get. I usually would get a brush cut, but instead I got a fade. I went to the mall nearly every weekend to shop in stores that I normally didn’t shop in. It was the first time I shopped in H&M, Zara, Zumiez, Pacsun, Tilly’s etc. (Normally I’d shop in stores that sold one brand of clothing). In addition to clothes shopping, I started buying cologne and jewelry. Anyone who truly knows me knows that cologne was never something that I was a fan of, nor did I care for chains or bracelets, but it was me stepping into a new mindset.
Another focus of mine was building new friendships and connections. This was great for me because I began being more of a social person. I started accepting invitations to go out and I’ve met a lot of great people. This challenged me in being the type of friend that I wanted in return. I can honestly say, I was having the time of my life.
As time went by, I somehow ventured off the path of happiness when I began to focus on the things I lacked rather than the things that I actually had. I saw how people seemed to “have it all together” on social media, while I was still struggling to find my way back to happiness. Somehow, I started to force my happiness and not let life “just happen”. Once I did this, I ended up feeling depressed, anxious, and unhappy with everything around me. It wasn’t until I actually sat down and listened to a podcast from Oprah that reminded me that happiness is a choice that we make everyday. We can either focus and dwell on what’s not going right in our lives, or we can focus on the things that we are grateful for and have faith and patience in our future.
One thing that you should know is that with faith you believe that the best is yet to come. With patience, you are living life one day at a time focusing on your happiness. Always remember that nothing is more important than your happiness. At this moment make the choice to be happy!