“When we don’t forgive, we’re not hurting the other person. We’re not hurting the company that did us wrong. We’re not hurting God. We’re only hurting ourselves.” – Joel Osteen
There are many key elements in life. Some key elements are trust, love, confidence, the list goes on. Of the key elements, forgiveness is one of the biggest! As hard as it could be, forgiveness is the art to living your best life and healing emotional wounds.
In life when we hold on to any grudges or wrong doings, it brings about negative feelings and emotions that sometimes goes unnoticed. These emotions and feelings can be subconscious to us as we build internal barriers which can block us from receiving true happiness. These barriers are known as resentment, bitterness, and trust issues. It can also have an impact on your mental health causing feelings of depression, sadness, anxiety, etc.
What many people forget is that when you forgive someone, it is not saying that what you’ve done to me is ok. It’s also not saying that I am going to forget what you’ve done to me, or that the pain you’ve caused has subsided.
Instead, it is saying that I am choosing to accept that you’ve done something that hurt me and I am choosing to let go and move on. It is saying that I will not let the hurt you’ve caused hinder the current moment. It is using the past hurt as a growth opportunity and not something to dwell on with “what if”, “I should’ve”, or “I could’ve”.
Forgiveness can be a struggle to many people. Not everyone take emotional pain or disappointments the same way. It may take one person minutes to forgive, while the next person take years to forgive. However, forgiving is necessary to heal and move forward in life.
Take this moment to reflect on any past hurt or disappointments you’ve experienced in life. Are there any grudges that you may still have? Is there anyone who you still haven’t forgiven?
It’s time to forgive. Forgive people for the mistakes that they’ve made. Forgive people for the times that they’ve disappointed you. Forgive people for the times that they’ve hurt you. Forgive people for abandoning you. Forgive people for not accepting you. Forgive people who passed judgments on you. Forgive people who made you cry. Forgive people who put others before you and made you feel less than human. Forgive people for failed attempts. Forgive people for lying to you. Forgive people for playing with your emotions and feelings. Forgive people for not prioritizing you when you prioritized them. Let it all go and forgive!
Once you take that step towards forgiveness, the possibilities of living your best life becomes endless.