Therapy is something that I believe we all could benefit from. It’s like having a friend that you can talk to about anything, and instead of them trying to tell you what to do, they ask reflective questions and provide you with insight on certain thinking and behavioral patterns that you may have.
I’ve enrolled in therapy several times throughout my life. Through my experiences, I always felt like it was my therapist’s job to identify the issue that I had and to “fix” me. I went into several sessions in hopes that my therapist would give me some magical solution to life, so that I can feel my best. However, week after week I felt more and more lost, and eventually stopped going.
As time went on, I began doing my own self work. I would watch different YouTube videos on self-improvement, read self-help books, and do some self-reflective writing here and there. All of these things helped me understand myself more and gave me a better perspective on life, however I still felt that something was missing. That’s when I decided to seek therapy again.
Seeking a new therapist wasn’t an easy task because not everyone is a great fit as a therapist. It’s like dating, you have to find a therapist that you feel comfortable with, and that you can connect with. I scrolled and scrolled online until I found a therapist located not too far from where I live. I was a bit apprehensive at first because I’ve never had a male therapist, but I told myself that it doesn’t hurt to give it a try.
So far, I’ve had about 5 sessions and honestly it’s been going very well. In my first session, we discussed my childhood and upbringing into my adulthood, and from there my therapist was able to point out different things about me that I never realized. He then helped me understand that how I view myself is reflected on those around me, which caught me by surprise. I’ve always been told that I’m very hard on myself, but I never realized that it causes me to have high expectations of others, and when they don’t meet my expectations, I’m hard on them as well. This is something that I’m definitely working on within myself along with many other things.
One thing that my therapist always says is, “you can’t go back and undo things that happened in your life, however you can look at those things and make small shifts to live a better life.” There are many things in life that we all wish we can go back and change. Some of these things may be holding us back from getting to that next level in life. Take some time to sit with yourself and identify any issues that you may have and try working through them. If it’s too much to do on your own, then I encourage you to seek therapy. Therapy has so many great benefits.
If I’d known the full benefits of therapy when I started to go back in my early 20’s, I’d never stop going. I’m amazed at the development that I’ve experienced over these past sessions. I encourage everyone to give therapy a try. It’s definitely worth it.